What’s up guys?

I want to ask you a question; what makes someone attractive as a guy and socially powerful? I’ve been asking myself this question for some time now so I can…frankly…have a lot of women find me sexy, and make other men respect me more.

I’ve now found out a few things from watching some people I wanted to be like in life, changing out in the real world as well as through study. Now I want to share them with an audience.

If you didn’t already know this about me, I work at a nursery….no not like a child daycare nursery, but a selling plants and hard physical labor nursery. I have done this for five years now.

I work with plants. I dig them, plant them, carry them, and sometimes load them on trucks, I am also the crew leader with about 7 people right under me at any given time. I’m just saying this to give you reference as to why you might want to listen to me on this topic.

There is this guy there at work now that is part of my crew, he’s about 21 years old, and he complains ALL THE TIME. He actually doesn’t even work that hard, and what he DOES DO he whines about. Not very many people respect him there and he asked me today “when are people going to stop picking on me here?”, this is what I told him in a round about way but this is more detailed:

You’ve got to stop complaining so much. Doing stuff you really don’t want to do sucks, I know that, but you’re going to have to do it anyways. For the most part, that’s why they pay you to come here and work…you’re not supposed to like it. If you liked it, then you’d be paying them.

Yeah it sucks, but sweating it only makes it worse for yourself and for those around you. Acting like it doesn’t faze you let’s other people wonder “is this even hard for him?”. Letting them just ponder whether you’re using yourself to the limit, letting them question where the limit to your strength really is. It makes us appear more powerful.

There is this other guy there that I occasionally have the…privilege to supervise, and he’s actually and honestly the slowest person that works at the entire place, it aggravates the hell out of me because I work my ass off. It’s as if he’ll actually TRY and figure out a way to get out of working, he’ll take breaks constantly using the bathroom, forgetting tools in the work van so he’ll have to go get them, and just generally being lazy.

Everybody talks about him behind his back with zero respect, calling him “the sissy”, “lazy”, and “turtle”…generally no one wants to work with him and he’s about to get fired. When at work we are there to work and some people just don’t get that I guess. So the conclusion I drew from that and other related experiences is…

Working the hardest you possibly can at what you’re doing, and always working that way…being stuck on balls to the walls GO allows you to become good at a lot of stuff. It makes it hard for other guys to outdo you at it and thus it makes you a leader, an example to be followed, and respected.

Plus it all adds up into accomplishments when taken in other directions than just for our day to day jobs, when it’s taken outside of the work place. Does that make sense, it gives us tangible strengths…eventually leading us as men to have more in real life than the women or woman we want beside us, increasing the attraction by increasing our self-worth.

These two qualities, not letting them see you sweat, and working really really hard at everything makes you almost appear larger than life to some. That there is something that you just have…you make the extremely hard look easy and all the sudden you’re leading people, and have become the alpha male of your friends outside of work by your ambitions.

Working hard is part of being a man, not trying to get out of hard work by tricking others or mooching…that DOESN’T make you powerful though I’ve done it before and felt powerful for a short time. Eventually your guise is seen through and people think you’re nothing but a lazy leach; we’re eventually devalued and often excommunicated when we take this route as guys.

So sorry to say for some, but you can’t just live in your mom’s basement and play World of Warcraft until your 45 and just EXPECT women to love you the way you are. As a man you’re EXPECTED to get up off your ass and do something, to make things happen…it is the main definition of being a man. WORK.

Doing that which must be done regardless of the pain, regardless of the pushing it’s going to take. To look at any situation from behind your own two eyes and come from there, unchanging, unwavering and knowing totally that you have what it takes to get it done.